To peg or be pegged? What does it feel like? What need or desire does it fulfil? How can it enhance your relationship?
It's not often that a couple is willing to share details around their most intimate sexual encounters with a stranger, let alone when it involves anything to do with a topic that has so many misconceptions attached to it.
Naturally, I was thrilled to get the opportunity to interview a JHB based couple on what their views around the subject are. After all, we like real. Real experiences and honest viewpoints around all things intimate!
I greatly appreciate this progressive couples willingness to share their experiences with me, and I hope you find a tremendous amount of inspiration in what they have to say.
What is pegging?
Simply put, pegging is a sexual position involving a woman wearing a dildo strapped around her waist and penetrating a man in the doggy style position.
Pegging is very much on the rise in popularity and a lot of people are giving it a go, yet, there are many, many myths that still surround it.
The interview
Age (both) - 21
Length of relationship – 5 months
Location – JHB, SA
Couples questions
1. Who suggested it, was it your first pegging experience?
Don suggested it, and yes it was a first for both of us.
2. What percentage of your intimate time is centered around pegging?
25%
3. What advice would you give to people starting out, tips based on your experience?
Start small and slow and there’s no such thing as too much lube...also...poppers helps but don’t get too ambitious 😉
4. When you first started experimenting, where did you get the DL from?
Don: it was something that always interested me from a younger age, probably early to mid teens and experimented with myself but never had or met anyone I felt comfortable doing it with until I met Tayla and after a little convincing we introduced it into our sex life.
Tayla: I had never really given much thought about it, nor had I been with anyone that was interested, Don brought it up, said he was curious and after some consideration, I decided see what it would be like.
5. What toys do you favor for it and why?
We currently have one strapless dildo...however I’d imagine that one with a strap would work better as it would hold in place better.
Taylas feedback...
1. What do you enjoy most about the experience? What does it feel like?
I enjoy it because Don enjoys it, I enjoy being able to pleasure my partner in more ways. There’s also a power dynamic switch which can be satisfying. It initially felt very odd, but it’s become enjoyable.
2. What need/desire does it fulfil
It doesn’t particularly fill any need or desire for myself personally, but it does fulfill my desire to pleasure my partner in more than just the same way most people do with their partners.
3. Considering it's an exciting part of your sexual relationship, who would you share it with?
I don’t think I could or would want to share something like this with anyone else as the experience has become very personal to my relationship with Don, he makes me feel comfortable about it and him being honest with me about what he wanted made me more confident about it and having not had any experience or thought about the idea before I won’t want to experience it with anyone else.
Dons feedback...
1. What, in your opinion, are the greatest misconceptions about it?
I think the biggest thing about it is the stigma attached to “only gay people liking it” in a sense and I found myself wrestling with my own sexuality because of this. This is however not the case and I honestly think a surprising amount of straight men would enjoy it...whether they’re able to admit it to themselves or not.
2. What do you enjoy most about the experience? What does it feel like?
I do tend, or at least did at the start of me and Tayla’s relationship with premature ejaculation and so always felt I wasn’t able to enjoy sex properly and to its fullest extent, but this gave me something else to enjoy and a gave me a different kind of sexual experience I hadn’t had before...one that lasted beyond a minute or two and I now find myself able to last a bit longer in bed which I honestly think pegging and other anal play has helped with. The feeling in itself I’m struggling to find words for...it’s different to anything else I’ve tried before but it’s definitely a pleasurable experience.
3. What need/desire does it fulfil?
It gave me something other than penile stimulation which has since helped me overcome anxiety about my PE and has made my sex-life more exciting and pleasurable.
4. Is it messy?
I’d definitely lay a towel down...but that’s mainly for the lube...so long as you’ve cleaned sufficiently since your last bathroom break, there’s very little to no smell and nothing that’s not supposed to has ever come out.
In closing
Understanding ourselves, our bodies and our partners is a vital part of how we choose to explore in the bedroom and enhance our overall levels of intimacy.
I wish you all the thrills and excitement you wish for yourself on your journey of sexploration!
As always - be bold, stay playful!
Carmen
Founder: Play With Me
Comments
Thanks for the insight. :)