Wednesday, 7 May 2024
There will only ever be one Mr. X.
I am the person people like sharing things with. I've pretty much always been that person, it's simply sharing to me. No judgement. An ear or a shoulder to cry on. I'm there for that.
So it wasn't surprising to me when Mr. X arrived looking for a female libido enhancement serum that he had come across online and in the process ended up confessing it all.
He explained to me that his sex life was pretty much non-existent and that despite his efforts his fiancé was rejecting any and all of his advances. Her libido was at an all-time low and after almost a year of trying to fix it combined with the ongoing rejection, he had started up an affair with someone else.
Mr. X was a mess. His eyes got bigger and bigger as he was confessing all of this to a perfect stranger. But, he couldn't stop and I didn't stop him.
Mr. X was riddled with guilt, he had been rejected for so long that the affair just happened to fill the void.
Who was Mr. X to share this with? His family, his friends? It was painful to see what the man was putting himself through.
At the end of the confessional we mapped out his options:
- Cancel lover, put all your energy into fixing things with fiancé.
- Cancel fiancé and continue with lover.
- Cancel both of them and focus on yourself?
But, as we both agreed, living with this guilt was killing him and that had to come to an end.
At the end of the impromptu therapy session Mr. X asked me if we could hug it out. And we did.
Mr. X left feeling a whole lot lighter than when he arrived.
Weeks went by and I couldn't stop wondering about him. Who did he choose? Is he ok?
A few months later when that doorbell rang I was beside myself! Finally, here he is! I need CLOSURE!!!
Mr. X came past to let me know that he had cancelled lover and was pulling out ALL the stops with his fiancé. He had made the choice that he thought would be best and he was determined to make it work.
You see, I don't know what's on your agenda when you come walking up my stairs. It's always a great big surprise to me. I welcome it, it keeps me on my toes. No one day will ever be the same in this environment.
When I faced challenges in my marriage I felt incredibly alone. I thought there was something wrong with me, or worse, that this is what marriage was supposed to be like. As a result, I didn't know who to talk to about it. I battled through a lot of these feelings on my own.
I have brought this part of my experience with me into this business. I know how painful relational problems can be. Many clients I interact with don't want to book themselves into therapy. They simply want someone to listen to them and to feel heard. I've become that place. I understand how important this place is and what it means to another. Again, a judgement free listening zone if you like.
Perhaps it's my way of paying it forward or perhaps it's the great empath in me who genuinely just wants to know that someone feels better. Whatever it might be, Mr. X made quite an impression on me that day. He reminded me that the struggles I faced then serve a great purpose for the collective as a whole now.
How satisfying is that?
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